Considering this piece, a commercial idiom came to my mind, “Cotton, the fabric of our lives.”

The phenomenal Diahann Carroll in her Master Class on OWN talked about this story of her childhood that she has literally used as a crutch her entire life. It was the story of how her mother abandoned her at her aunt’s house when she was three or four years old. She is now 75 years old.

She said, “It’s a good story … it’s the broken-hearted little baby. … A mature person finds a way to let go of that, an immature person, that’s a wonderful excuse. I can live on that excuse forever.”

Through all her success and celebrity fame, she said she held onto that story because it worked. She said one of her very dearest friends in the world asked her one day, “When will you give up that story?”

Her response … “It’s been with me for a long time, it’s hard to give it up, it has worked so well, hard to give it up.”

Diahann Carroll ~ Oprah’s Master Class,


Hearing her Talk about that made me think how we take refuge in our stories, our experiences, claiming them as a reason for being or not being.

I recently read a book by Karen Gilliam Ph.D., “Finding Your Voice In A World That Needs It” ( In Gilliam’s book she shares her stories and conveys to her readers that stories shape and give voice to who we are. Like the fabric of our lives, stories are a woven tapestry that gives texture to our lives. How we use them is what determines whether they take bitter root, stiffling our lives or whether they spring up like a live plant that enrich and strengthen our lives.

What story are you telling?
If it not enriching your life, if you nor others are growing from it, find a new story to tell.